This morning, I sang along to Mary Well’s song “My Guy” while doing laundry. The lyrics go something like this:
Nothing you could say
Can tear me away from my guy
Nothing you could do
‘Cause I’m stuck like glue to my guy
There’s not a man today
Who can take me away
From my guy.
As I thought about these lyrics, I wondered about how true they were. Could I be tempted away from my hubby by a handsome face, buffer body, riches, power, former flame, etc? I had a hard time definitively saying no, which unsettled my thoughts a little.
As I really delved into the question, I realized that there are so many incredible people in the world who I could have a phenomenal relationship with if given the opportunity. My husband is certainly among them. But the difference between all of them and my husband is that I have built a life with my man. We’ve spent countless hours dreaming, scheming, supporting, laughing, crying, mourning, celebrating, pushing, working, cooking, exploring, and loving over the last decade of marriage and 1/2 a decade of friendship/engagement before that. We’ve made two children who are shaping up to be incredible people in their own rights,, accomplished educational degrees, gained professional successes, established personal friendships, built family relationships, and created so many memories that range the spectrum of emotions. My man is an amazing person, but more than that, he’s the person I have chosen to build my life around, on, and with.
So though Ms. Wells addresses the type of person who could probably tempt me, mystery man cannot compete with the life and history I’ve co-constructed with my man.